Remembering Valentine's Day.
Last year Jim was in Sibley Hospital in Washington, DC on Valentine's Day - his final hospitalization.
He arranged with our son Jim to bring in this rose so that when he asked me to get him something for the cabinet on Valentine's morning - - it was waiting for me to find it.
Jim was a darling "romantic" and he loved Valentine's Day. From the time we were dating he gave me a single rose - and often something else. I cooked a special dinner. Less special when there were also "kids" under foot - more later when we were an empty-nest couple.
Today - I have the card, cannot find the vase which I did bring home from the hospital -
but I have this picture and a very dear memory - actually many very dear and sweet loving memories.
Today I will turn the car radio to 50s on 5 on Sirius Radio and drive to Arlington National Cemetery with a single rose - - and wrap myself in those memories.
I recently read a book - Understanding Your Grief - in which the doctor-author talks not of healing your grief but of reconciling it in with the new life you are living.
I am trying to do that.